Happy New Year! While I had every intention of sharing a few sparkly ensembles before the new year, life got in the way last week. In fact, nothing has really gone “according to plan” these last few weeks and it’s been an excellent lesson(s) in something that I’ve been trying to work on over the last few months — letting go of the expectations and going with the flow.
I was so excited to stay in town for that week between Christmas and New Years. While part of me wanting to jet off somewhere warm (It’s been f*cking FREEZING in Chicago. We’re talking negative temperatures for weeks on end… Ah!), I was looking forward to having a week to do a lot of reflecting on 2017 and planning for 2018. And to get ahead on some content for January, too! In my mind, there’s no better feeling than feeling PREPARED and READY for a new year. It’s all about the mindset, and I knew this plan was going to set me up for success. Let’s do this, 2018! New week, new month, new year all on a Monday… Couldn’t have planned it better if I tried.
Instead, I caught the flu from my sister-in-law on Christmas (she didn’t know she had it until the next day) and ended up getting back to Chicago just before I was knocked out on the couch for a week with a 103 degree fever, the worst hacking cough, and one of the more extreme cases of fatigue I’ve ever had. I luckily went to the doctor early enough to get the antiviral meds, but I’m still not 100% yet. My fever and body aches have thankfully subsided, but I’ve still got this relentless cough, I feel like my nose will never not need blowed, and I’m still tired AF throughout the day. Needless to say, I didn’t get any of my New Years content published on the blog. I didn’t do any reflecting on 2017. I didn’t get any planning for 2018 done. I didn’t get ahead on January content and I’m currently way behind schedule with what I had planned to post this first week of the year. And on top of that, I haven’t worked out in weeks, haven’t been eating healthy, and couldn’t feel more BLAH if I tried.
Why am I telling you all of this? I promise it’s not to complain. All of these curveballs have further exemplified what we already know… You can’t control what happens, but you can control how you react. Previously, this type of thing would be just what I needed to spin off into a downward spiral for a few weeks until I managed to pull myself out of the rut. “Nothing goes right. The year is off to a shit start. 2018 is doomed, just like 2017.” etc. etc.
Instead, I’m trying to give myself some compassion and simply do what I can right now. This isn’t how I would have liked to start the year, but in all actuality, the day and year are just numbers. Who really gives a shit if I mentally “start the year” next Monday on the 7th? I’m all for having a plan, but it’s just as important to be able to roll with the punches and re-write your plan when life gets messy and in the way.
So if you happen to be in a similar situation, don’t be so hard on yourself! Maybe you drank alcohol yesterday, or didn’t workout, or ate pizza instead of a salad. (Guilty on the last two…) Give yourself a break! What would you say to a friend if they were venting to you about the problems you’re facing? The whole month and/or year are not f*cked just because you went off-course for a day. Just start back up and do what you can today! Remember, you might not be able to control what happens to you, but you can control how you react. Let go of your expectations (your ideas how it “should” be) and just go with the flow. xx
While New Year’s Eve may be over, there are still a lot of fun things on the horizon… Winter weddings, charitable events like Snowball, or maybe even award show parties. I love how this silver Kate Spade sweater dress isn’t *too glitzy* and can really be worn for a lot of different occasions… Even work! Wear it with booties, tights, pointed pumps, a moto jacket, a cropped blazer… Tons of options!
Get the Look…
Kate Spade Silver Midi Dress (also available here!)
1.State Black Faux Fur Coat (identical here & here; similar here, here, here, here, & here)
Kate Spade Glitter Pom-Pom Heels (on sale!)
Loren Hope Earrings
Loren Hope Bracelet
Black Envelope Clutch (old; similar here & here)
Red Lipstick: Dolce & Gabbana in 420